Day 3 - Pass on some useful advice or information you learned and always remembered.
I'm sure we've all heard the advice - "Never go to bed angry," right?
And to that I say, "B.S."
If I had followed this well meaning tidbit, I likely would:
a) have lost much needed beauty rest.
b) never have come to any conclusion on the issue at hand.
c) have no husband right now.
d) all of the above.
You see, I'm virtually non-functional at night. It's genetic. A truly small molehill (for instance, Peyton wears too many Tennessee shirts) becomes Mount Kilimanjaro in a matter of moments. And then I have to walk away. Walk away and go to sleep and wake up in the morning with a bright new perspective on life and those shirts. (Or at least no urge to dance around them burning in a trashcan.)
And I'm not saying this works all the time.
If there is a big problem at hand, and P. is there and wanting to talk about it, then I'll soldier through as long as it's productive. But with me being the relationship communicator of the two of us, that rarely happens.
How 'bout an example?
I'm peacefully sleeping in the cloak of the night, when in stumbles the husband at 1:30 after falling asleep on the couch. I can't go back to sleep, I hate all his stupid Tennessee shirts, I hate the way he breathes, and I hate that he keeps waking me up. In my night time, completely sound mind, I decide that the only solution is divorce. Luckily though, sleep starts to overcome me before I can get those un-takeawayable words out. And when morning comes, all is well. In fact, we get some hearty chuckles out of the situation. I tell him my night time thoughts as we cuddle.
"Do you actually want one?"
"Of COURSE not," I laugh.
"But did you at the time?"
"One HUNDRED percent."
**Pulls me close. We laugh. Life. Is. Good.**
All this to say, I am not rational at night.
So my advice to you is simple - go to bed angry. Not furious. Not leaving a spouse hanging and banging on the door. But just make it clear that some things are talked about with a fresh mind. And often, I've found, the problem will iron itself out by morning.
LIVE THE MURRAYED LIFE